Monday, April 25, 2016

It's the "Little" Things

Solomon was right when he penned, It's the little foxes that spoil the vine. As caregivers we have lots and lots of "big" things that make our days more difficult than "normal" people's. And honestly, most days I have finally learned how to have a handle on those. It took awhile to find a new "normal" and adjust to a lifestyle that is anything BUT normal. But we are caregivers - we assess, adjust, and advance - on a daily, hourly or minute by minute bases as needed.

It's little things like this lady, who did have a handicap sticker by the way, who parked just a little bit too far in the loading area. It was just enough that I had to lift my son's chair up and over to get him on the lift.

I may or may not have said a bad word or two while I was trying to decide what to do. I thought about waiting until she came back out so I could giver her a piece of my mind. But I was afraid I might just punch her first. We were tired, ready to go home and both needed some rest so I decided to lift his chair up and over the lip on the lift so we could proceed. I got him in the van, buckled down, then I stored the lift and went around to get in just in time to hear some smarty pants on KLOVE say something about not letting things steal your joy.

Steal my joy? What joy? Did you see that inconsiderate blond lady who parked like that?  But deep down I knew the guy was probably right. I had had a wonderful evening with my family. We went to my daughter's church to hear my grandson sing in the choir, and then we came out to eat ice cream. It had been a fun, relaxing time with my daughter's family and my sister and brother-in-law and this short, blond chick had to park where it made it difficult to get Chris in the van. And just like that - the joy of the evening was snatched away.

As caregivers, we carry a lot - our day is so full of the things we get to do to care for our loved ones - but we walk around in a state of the proverbial "camel's back" and anything or everything can be that last straw. It really doesn't take much most days (maybe that's just me). The world is filled with inconsiderate people - it's our choice how they affect, or don't affect us. It's easy to say - difficult to do!

Today my meditation will be on Romans 15:13 - I pray that the God of hope fills you with all joy and peace because you believe in Him. I'll let Him restore the joy of my salvation  as I recall that absolutely none of these things have an effect on my salvation. It is secure whether there are considerate or inconsiderate people around is irrelevant. My soul, and my son's soul are safe in Him. I'll choose to rejoice in that fact today. Will you join me?

2 comments:

  1. Oh yes, Jeanie! I will join you...there are so many things "out there" that steal our joy; so many people "out there" that steal our joy...and many days, it's the person I am caring for that steals my joy more than anything else. Does he do it on purpose? I don't think so. Does it hurt like h---?! YES IT DOES! Am I ready to throw in the towel? Many times, yes; but I won't...I'll just keep on keeping on and do the best I can and listen for those things that lift my joy; that remind me of what my ULTIMATE JOY is...life in Jesus Christ!

    Thank you for sharing...I need to be reading your daily devotions...DAILY!

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  2. I totally "hear" you!! Although our situations are different, there are so many things our loved one can do that chip away at our joy. I battle depression many times, as I'm sure other CGs do - as I think back to who my son was BC (before caregiving) - and who he is today. It can try to chip away.... and it's a constant struggle to keep our heads above water most days. It can be just as difficult to focus on the truth that our joy must be in Him and that nothing can harm our souls. Thanks for sharing with us - and thanks for reading!!!

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